Living Intentionally: Dance, Life, and Pageantry with Jaimee Beard

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Hello everyone and welcome to the Inner
Workings of the Not So Genius Mind.

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I'm your host, Amanda McCombs.

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Mrs. Daybreak for who knows how long,
and I am here with my friend Jamie.

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I. Jamie Beard and her title.

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I just blanked.

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Oh my gosh.

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What's your title?

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Miss Nebo Valley.

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Miss Nebo Valley, that's right.

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Yeah.

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And she's one of our, she's
one of our single contestants.

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It just means she, she's not married.

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I'm on the market currently.

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This is not an advertisement for Jamie.

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No, but also is because we're just
gonna talk all about her today.

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Yeah.

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She has two degrees in dance
and she's the owner and CEO of

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North Point Academy of Dance.

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When she's not teaching dance, she
enjoys spending time with loved

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ones, especially the little humans
that know her by the title of Ant.

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Um, Jamie believes that
the ugh, Jamie lives.

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I am so bad at this today by the belief
that everything happens for a reason.

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Through her platform dance
with a purpose, she encourages

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others to live intentionally.

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I love this.

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I remember hearing a tiny bit about.

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Your platform, dance with a Purpose.

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And I Was this before or
after you went to California?

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It was probably before because
we had that little workshop.

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The what?

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And I think, yeah, and I think
that's probably where you.

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Tell us more about your platform
and how you came up with it.

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We'll just start there.

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Yeah.

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So I actually started in my parents'
garage, which I'm in right now.

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It's my, it's now my dance studio.

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Oh.

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Um, and so, yeah, so it's actually
the slogan of my dance studio.

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Um, and I chose it because
growing up my dad would always

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tell us, walk with a purpose.

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He was military and he is like,
get to where you're supposed to be.

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Um, and so I kind of converted that into.

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To dance with a purpose.

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Right.

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Have goals, have that intention
behind anything you do.

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And even though my platform is
dance with a purpose, it's truly

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all about just living intentionally.

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Yeah.

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Whether it's through service or a
different extracurricular activity or

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anything, it's just really having that
intention and that drive towards your

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goals and towards something better.

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I love that.

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That's so cool.

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So thank you.

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Long have you.

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Owned your own dance studio.

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Yeah, so it's almost been a whole year.

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I actually just renewed
Happy Business License.

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Thank you.

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I just renewed my business license for the
first time, and that was really exciting.

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So I started, I've, I've
been teaching for years.

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I started teaching when I was in high
school as an assistant, and then I just

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kind of continued from there and I, I
actually procrastinated opening my studio.

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My mom kept saying, especially
during Covid, where I, you know,

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the arts were kind of struggling.

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Everything was shutting down.

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And at the time I was working for a
professional dance company and all

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of our shows had to be canceled.

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And so she was like, Jamie, this would
be a great time to open your studio.

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And I just didn't, I procrastinated
and I think part of it was like.

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I do really wanna get married
and I wanna have kids.

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And at the time I was just like, oh, well
maybe I'll get married and I'll move away.

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So why build something and have
something so secure when I don't know

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what's gonna happen with my life?

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Yeah.

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And so, um, when I kind of felt
like in the, my most rockiest point.

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In 2023, um, I was actually
diagnosed with celiac disease.

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And with that there was a lot
of realizations that, um, came

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to me and I felt like, okay,
I can't work a normal job.

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I'm too exhausted.

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I have to do certain things in
order to just keep moving forward.

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And so I was like, I
need to be my own boss.

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And so that was when I was like, okay.

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I can't wait around for Prince Charming
to come in on a white horse anymore.

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Like I just have to do, do what's best
for me and best for my community, really.

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Um, there was a huge need
here in Nephi and so I did it.

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So Cool.

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How cool.

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Well, and I like, I feel like when.

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I was thinking about this with my
house, like, why do we, why do we

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act like we're here temporarily?

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Mm-hmm.

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Why are we living our lives?

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Like we're not gonna be in the
place that we are for very long.

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Like we're making sure that the person
after us can, doesn't have to patch up

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all the holes in the walls or whatever.

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But like, we're here now, right?

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Yeah, so dance with a purpose and
living intentionally that just.

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All that resonates with me, so, yeah.

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Yeah.

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And I feel like there, I feel like it
resonates with everyone and some people

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are like, dance with a per purpose.

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I'm like, you don't
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You can just, you can
say like, with a purpose.

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Um, you know, you can say
whatever you're doing.

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Like I love writing courses.

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You can say writing horses with a purpose.

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You can say.

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Bedazzling with a purpose.

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You know, like anything that you're
doing, anything that you're doing,

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like you have an intention behind it.

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So, yes, exactly.

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You can't, like I was talking
about that with my kids.

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Um, you know, they, we ask them
questions and like, why did you do that?

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And they're like, I don't know.

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It's like, well, okay, we need to
break it down, be able to answer

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that question before we do this.

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Right.

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Lets.

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Think first before we act.

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Yes.

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Because if you're just running
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direction you're going in Yep.

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You could be go going like the total.

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Yeah, yeah, for sure.

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Um, man, what else was I gonna ask you?

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Okay, you and I were talking a second ago.

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I'm gonna go, my cat
is meowing super loud.

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You can't hear it on the mic,
but I'm gonna go grab something

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quick and go let her in.

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And yeah, we're gonna talk about the
costume thing and the gifs because I

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have to tell you this really funny story
'cause you're single and it's kind of a

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dating story and it's kinda long story.

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So I'll be right back.

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Hold on.

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Yes, kitty.

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Okay, I'm back.

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Sorry.

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You are good.

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This is my, oh, hi.

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She's a main Kun cat
and she, oh my goodness.

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Doesn't like to be.

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Not in the same level
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It sounded like she was.

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Hello.

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I love that I have a pet bird and
she doesn't let me snuggle her.

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And I wish that I had a cat or
a dog or something that I could

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just hold, hold and snuggle.

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Oh, I know neighbors have a bird.

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I, Jean, I bonded when we
when they were outta town.

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And she, she'll see me walking
my dogs out in the grass.

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Mm-hmm.

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And I'll hear her like she can see me from
her little occasion, like her screaming.

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I love that.

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It's the best.

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I just love animals.

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Animals are great.

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They really are.

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Okay, so last year I was a Stanley.

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I'll put a picture.

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Somewhere here, Blaine, put a
picture here of me and my Stanley.

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You know how to do that if you
don't cut that out, if you don't

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know how to do that, don't do that.

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Um, so every year the contestants
give everybody gifts and it

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can be like sponsor gifts.

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Mm-hmm.

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I didn't really think about this, so
I didn't even give anything last year.

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I was like, I don't know what's going on.

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Yeah.

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So everyone this year is gonna get a
cute little Crown Stanley, not Stanley.

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It doesn't have to be Stanley.

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Straw topper.

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Yes.

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And then I am a gemstone.

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'cause our state stone is the honeycomb.

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Calcite.

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That's my costume this year.

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Mm-hmm.

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Which I love.

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I'm so excited.

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I'm so excited.

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And then I ended up working with a
gem studio to make these bracelets.

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But you were telling me
about going to Lotus.

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I used to go there all the time.

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Mm-hmm.

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Yeah.

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As it's next to another dance studio.

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Mm-hmm.

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And that is where I used to teach
preschool there for like a quick minute.

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Oh, no way.

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My daughter went there and she
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started her ballet, whatever.

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So she loves, yeah, she loves
dancing, she loves performing.

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She well, and that's an amazing studio.

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Yeah.

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Just they do a great job.

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They pay attention to detail there.

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They do.

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When you were there, 'cause
you said you were just there

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like around Valentine's Day.

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Mm-hmm.

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Did you see the Pottery Studio?

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I don't think I did.

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It's next door.

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It used to be a furniture store.

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Okay.

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And it's next door to Lotus,
and it's in between the Utah

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Dance artists and the Uhhuh.

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It used to be a furniture.

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Okay.

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They've gutted it.

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It's now a place called the Clay Hole.

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Okay.

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It's a pottery membership place.

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I have a membership there now.

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Oh, awesome.

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But I know the owner and so on Facebook,
in one of the local groups, I saw a

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post and it was, um, about the pottery
studio and how there was, he was

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gonna give like a big, huge discount.

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Mm-hmm.

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Um, and.

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It was if you signed up
for the month of March.

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'cause they just really
wanted to have a good opening.

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Yeah.

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And whatever.

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And I was like, oh yeah, sure.

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I did pottery back in the day and I
couldn't figure out how I knew the guy.

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Mm-hmm.

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Like his name sounded really familiar.

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Um, and it's 'cause I've usually
just seen him over on Instagram.

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Yeah.

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Recently I haven't seen his
name on Facebook very much.

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And so I commented on it and I was
like, yeah, I'm totally into it.

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I'm gonna friend request you and um, send
you a private message so I don't get lost.

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'cause I want that code.

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Yeah, I gotta to send him a message.

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And 11 years ago I had messaged him.

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Oh dear.

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I've been married, I've
been married for 10 years.

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Love it.

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Did you?

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Did you know you can't air base
messages that are 11 years old?

255
00:10:43,402 --> 00:10:44,902
Even if they never opened it?

256
00:10:44,902 --> 00:10:46,132
Even if they never saw it?

257
00:10:47,062 --> 00:10:47,752
Oh, no.

258
00:10:48,832 --> 00:10:50,302
So I have a choice.

259
00:10:50,872 --> 00:10:52,102
Do I own it?

260
00:10:52,102 --> 00:10:55,582
Do I just say, Hey, yo, it's me.

261
00:10:55,822 --> 00:10:56,962
I'm not a creep.

262
00:10:57,082 --> 00:10:57,712
Like.

263
00:10:58,657 --> 00:11:00,757
I'm married and happy and whatever.

264
00:11:00,757 --> 00:11:01,358
Or do I wait?

265
00:11:01,482 --> 00:11:02,162
I think you owned it.

266
00:11:02,162 --> 00:11:03,367
Wait for him to message me.

267
00:11:03,397 --> 00:11:04,657
Oh, no, no.

268
00:11:04,662 --> 00:11:05,082
I owned it.

269
00:11:05,107 --> 00:11:06,097
I totally owned it.

270
00:11:06,607 --> 00:11:06,907
Yeah.

271
00:11:06,907 --> 00:11:06,908
Yeah.

272
00:11:07,282 --> 00:11:11,617
I, I think the first thing I said was,
oh my gosh, this is so embarrassing.

273
00:11:11,617 --> 00:11:14,407
'cause I was being, that was
not like me to be super bold and

274
00:11:14,407 --> 00:11:17,467
message somebody, but I was like,
I think you and I would get along.

275
00:11:17,467 --> 00:11:18,397
You're really nice.

276
00:11:18,877 --> 00:11:24,307
Um, he had an adopted son and
he just, even after he and

277
00:11:24,307 --> 00:11:25,687
his ex broke up, they like.

278
00:11:27,172 --> 00:11:30,442
They really worked hard to be good
parents for their kid, and I was a single

279
00:11:30,442 --> 00:11:32,302
mom and yada, yada, yada, yada yada.

280
00:11:32,302 --> 00:11:34,192
It went to his junk, I'm sure.

281
00:11:34,252 --> 00:11:35,122
'cause Yeah.

282
00:11:35,122 --> 00:11:36,527
Who does that?

283
00:11:37,357 --> 00:11:38,527
Yeah, I do.

284
00:11:39,227 --> 00:11:44,812
Uh, anyway, so his first message back
was like, I don't know, messages, 11

285
00:11:44,812 --> 00:11:46,912
years apart seems pretty obsessive to me.

286
00:11:49,492 --> 00:11:52,702
And we chit chatted back
and forth for a while and we

287
00:11:52,702 --> 00:11:54,322
decided to call it the 11 year.

288
00:11:54,322 --> 00:11:54,892
Hello.

289
00:11:54,892 --> 00:11:56,062
But yeah, now we're friends.

290
00:11:56,272 --> 00:11:56,452
I like it.

291
00:11:56,842 --> 00:11:59,932
And now we message all the time and
he's like, wow, you're really cool.

292
00:11:59,932 --> 00:12:03,742
And I'm like supporting him
and he's supporting me and

293
00:12:03,742 --> 00:12:04,582
it's just really awesome.

294
00:12:05,332 --> 00:12:08,932
I'm gonna see if I can find a picture,
but I mean, I think he's single.

295
00:12:12,112 --> 00:12:13,912
He knows how to work the wheel.

296
00:12:14,827 --> 00:12:16,177
He's really, really nice though.

297
00:12:16,207 --> 00:12:17,167
It was really funny.

298
00:12:17,197 --> 00:12:21,277
He is like, and then because you know
the beauty pageant, I miss his daybreak.

299
00:12:21,307 --> 00:12:21,577
Yeah.

300
00:12:22,117 --> 00:12:22,837
Um,

301
00:12:24,967 --> 00:12:31,837
he was like, are you telling me that
I could have, um, that's so funny.

302
00:12:31,837 --> 00:12:33,037
Been with royalty.

303
00:12:33,097 --> 00:12:34,597
I'm like, yeah, sucks to be you.

304
00:12:37,327 --> 00:12:39,487
I mean, my life wouldn't
have gone down this way.

305
00:12:39,487 --> 00:12:40,927
We were just meant to be friends.

306
00:12:40,987 --> 00:12:41,652
We were meant to be.

307
00:12:41,652 --> 00:12:41,892
Yeah.

308
00:12:42,037 --> 00:12:42,067
Okay.

309
00:12:42,607 --> 00:12:43,177
Yeah.

310
00:12:43,387 --> 00:12:44,827
But dating is scary.

311
00:12:45,727 --> 00:12:47,557
I don't like, dating is a lot like dating.

312
00:12:48,097 --> 00:12:48,457
Yeah.

313
00:12:48,757 --> 00:12:50,017
It's overwhelming.

314
00:12:50,647 --> 00:12:51,247
It is.

315
00:12:51,817 --> 00:12:55,627
I dated on, I met my husband
online and I went on some

316
00:12:55,627 --> 00:12:58,237
awful, awful, awful first dates.

317
00:12:59,407 --> 00:12:59,677
Yeah.

318
00:13:01,807 --> 00:13:02,077
Yeah.

319
00:13:02,077 --> 00:13:06,847
It's definitely something
that I've learned a lot from.

320
00:13:06,847 --> 00:13:07,387
Mm-hmm.

321
00:13:07,442 --> 00:13:07,682
Like.

322
00:13:08,302 --> 00:13:10,882
I was talking to my friend
the other day, we went out to

323
00:13:10,882 --> 00:13:13,102
lunch and she's a single mom.

324
00:13:13,102 --> 00:13:14,422
She's been divorced twice.

325
00:13:14,422 --> 00:13:21,292
Like, she just has a lot of perspective
and I feel like when we talk, we have a

326
00:13:21,292 --> 00:13:25,462
similar perspective where it's all like
we've been able to sit back as single

327
00:13:25,462 --> 00:13:29,962
woman and kind of look at our past and
look what we've been through and be like,

328
00:13:30,472 --> 00:13:33,052
oh, I'm gonna move forward differently.

329
00:13:33,442 --> 00:13:36,592
Yeah, because I don't wanna
experience all that again, and that's

330
00:13:36,592 --> 00:13:38,632
something that I feel very blessed.

331
00:13:38,632 --> 00:13:42,622
Like even though yeah, there's times
that I'm super sad and depressed and

332
00:13:42,622 --> 00:13:46,072
I'm not married and that I'm not a mom
and like all these things, you know?

333
00:13:46,402 --> 00:13:52,012
I feel like I am very blessed to have
different relationships in my life that I

334
00:13:52,012 --> 00:13:55,192
can look at and be like, oh, I love that.

335
00:13:55,312 --> 00:13:56,962
Or, Ooh, I don't love that.

336
00:13:57,292 --> 00:13:57,862
Yeah.

337
00:13:58,297 --> 00:14:02,617
Be able to learn from that and kind of
prepare myself so that when I do enter

338
00:14:02,617 --> 00:14:10,117
a marriage and I do become a mom, then
I have kind of this backboard, this like

339
00:14:10,417 --> 00:14:13,777
foundation for me to kind of pull from.

340
00:14:13,987 --> 00:14:14,107
Yeah.

341
00:14:14,137 --> 00:14:18,397
Instead of just going into it
being like, I have no clue what I'm

342
00:14:18,397 --> 00:14:24,217
doing, or I feel like, I feel like
I am very blessed to be able to.

343
00:14:25,042 --> 00:14:29,692
Be in that space right now where I
am self-aware, you know, my frontal

344
00:14:29,692 --> 00:14:32,957
cortex has been developed for a
couple years now, where it's not

345
00:14:32,957 --> 00:14:34,717
like what I was gonna say, like Yeah.

346
00:14:34,727 --> 00:14:38,362
Where I'm like, I am able to
kind of enter anything that I

347
00:14:38,362 --> 00:14:41,752
do with a better understanding.

348
00:14:42,352 --> 00:14:42,802
Yeah.

349
00:14:42,802 --> 00:14:43,642
Well, like.

350
00:14:45,367 --> 00:14:48,997
It's not that, I mean it, on the one
hand, it's not necessarily that you

351
00:14:48,997 --> 00:14:51,127
have more years or anything like that.

352
00:14:51,157 --> 00:14:51,277
Mm-hmm.

353
00:14:51,522 --> 00:14:55,897
It's, it's, you've been able to see things
from a different perspective than, yeah.

354
00:14:56,767 --> 00:14:59,707
When we were younger, like if
I married who I thought I was

355
00:14:59,707 --> 00:15:06,397
gonna marry 15, 20 years ago, I
probably would've been miserable.

356
00:15:07,207 --> 00:15:09,907
Yeah, it's not what I
would've wanted long term.

357
00:15:09,907 --> 00:15:10,417
Right.

358
00:15:10,507 --> 00:15:10,837
Yeah.

359
00:15:11,167 --> 00:15:13,717
Well, and I was engaged once,
like I planned a wedding.

360
00:15:13,717 --> 00:15:18,487
I have the wedding dress hanging up in my
closet where it's all like, I would've, I

361
00:15:18,487 --> 00:15:23,317
think I would've loved that relationship,
but I think it would've been really hard.

362
00:15:23,707 --> 00:15:29,857
And I like looking back, I'm like, would
I have been trapped in that relationship

363
00:15:29,857 --> 00:15:31,837
or would I have gone through a divorce?

364
00:15:31,837 --> 00:15:33,457
You know, like, I just don't know.

365
00:15:33,757 --> 00:15:35,107
And so I'm so, yeah.

366
00:15:35,107 --> 00:15:35,977
Happy.

367
00:15:36,382 --> 00:15:38,722
I've come to where I am today.

368
00:15:38,722 --> 00:15:41,302
Like granted, like he's amazing.

369
00:15:41,302 --> 00:15:42,622
I'm sure he's doing great.

370
00:15:42,802 --> 00:15:46,012
Where it's like our paths
just weren't meant to be.

371
00:15:46,372 --> 00:15:46,882
Yeah.

372
00:15:47,482 --> 00:15:47,992
Yeah.

373
00:15:48,412 --> 00:15:51,232
That's actually, I ended
a relationship with a guy.

374
00:15:51,622 --> 00:15:55,402
We were like getting ready
to buy a house and mm-hmm.

375
00:15:55,642 --> 00:15:59,992
Talking about getting married
and I, young, single mom, new,

376
00:15:59,992 --> 00:16:01,882
new, new little baby, and.

377
00:16:02,722 --> 00:16:04,222
It wasn't even his baby.

378
00:16:04,282 --> 00:16:07,522
He was just showing up for me, and
I had known him for a long time

379
00:16:07,522 --> 00:16:11,992
already, but then I thought about
it and I was like, I love you and I

380
00:16:11,992 --> 00:16:13,552
care about you, but I know mm-hmm.

381
00:16:13,612 --> 00:16:18,472
That like, yeah, this life together
is not what we're gonna want.

382
00:16:19,162 --> 00:16:19,432
Yeah.

383
00:16:20,602 --> 00:16:20,962
Yeah.

384
00:16:21,082 --> 00:16:22,882
And it's so hard to do.

385
00:16:22,882 --> 00:16:23,002
Hard.

386
00:16:23,002 --> 00:16:23,242
Yeah.

387
00:16:23,242 --> 00:16:23,362
Hard.

388
00:16:23,902 --> 00:16:25,792
Well, and I think it's that love.

389
00:16:26,182 --> 00:16:26,722
Yeah.

390
00:16:26,782 --> 00:16:30,862
That you have for that person
that helps you understand, oh,

391
00:16:31,162 --> 00:16:33,022
maybe this isn't gonna be okay.

392
00:16:33,352 --> 00:16:33,682
Yeah.

393
00:16:33,742 --> 00:16:36,112
And like the love that you
have for yourself as well.

394
00:16:36,142 --> 00:16:41,782
Like, I loved my ex, like, and I
still have a type of love for him.

395
00:16:42,112 --> 00:16:42,352
Yeah.

396
00:16:42,352 --> 00:16:46,462
And I can recognize that, but it's not
that love that I would want to carry

397
00:16:46,462 --> 00:16:48,382
into a marriage, if that makes sense.

398
00:16:48,592 --> 00:16:51,022
That does well, and there's so
many different types of love.

399
00:16:51,082 --> 00:16:54,562
Like you can let people love
and care about so many D like.

400
00:16:54,892 --> 00:16:56,872
There's so much space in your heart.

401
00:16:57,737 --> 00:16:58,027
Yeah.

402
00:16:58,792 --> 00:17:01,792
But like at the same time,
yeah, we're at the same time.

403
00:17:01,792 --> 00:17:05,062
Like you're getting that's Yeah.

404
00:17:05,122 --> 00:17:06,832
How you get broken, right?

405
00:17:06,832 --> 00:17:07,072
Yeah.

406
00:17:07,732 --> 00:17:08,092
Yeah.

407
00:17:08,512 --> 00:17:12,232
Feeling all the things and
you love a lot, that's when

408
00:17:12,232 --> 00:17:13,702
you're gonna get hurt the most.

409
00:17:13,912 --> 00:17:14,902
So Yeah.

410
00:17:15,352 --> 00:17:18,772
I mean, I went into a lot of
relationships with like one foot

411
00:17:18,772 --> 00:17:20,872
in and one foot out or, mm-hmm.

412
00:17:21,172 --> 00:17:21,532
Um.

413
00:17:22,792 --> 00:17:26,452
I think after that one, most of the
time it was guys breaking up with

414
00:17:26,452 --> 00:17:28,702
me or ghosting me is the worst.

415
00:17:29,182 --> 00:17:29,827
Yes, I know.

416
00:17:29,842 --> 00:17:33,802
I had somebody that just
like packed up their stuff.

417
00:17:33,982 --> 00:17:37,882
I was at work, packed
up their stuff and left.

418
00:17:38,122 --> 00:17:39,202
Didn't say anything.

419
00:17:40,072 --> 00:17:44,362
That's so crazy blocked and it's me
on everything and it's crazy like.

420
00:17:44,872 --> 00:17:48,862
Dating that's like, it's not
just dating that that happens.

421
00:17:48,862 --> 00:17:53,422
Like I've had friends do that to me and
in my business I've had students and

422
00:17:53,422 --> 00:17:57,622
parents do that to me where it's all like,
I think there's a, you just disappear.

423
00:17:57,742 --> 00:17:58,162
Yeah.

424
00:17:58,162 --> 00:18:01,102
I'm all like, can people
just be considerate?

425
00:18:02,032 --> 00:18:03,922
No, they can't just be honest and open.

426
00:18:03,922 --> 00:18:08,542
And that's, and that's honestly
one thing that I love about the

427
00:18:08,542 --> 00:18:13,012
growth that I've had, is that
I've learned those boundaries.

428
00:18:13,387 --> 00:18:14,977
And accepting.

429
00:18:15,487 --> 00:18:18,577
Like I have a friend who says
they self-identify as someone

430
00:18:18,577 --> 00:18:19,867
who shouldn't be in your life.

431
00:18:20,167 --> 00:18:21,547
And I'm all like, you're right.

432
00:18:21,637 --> 00:18:25,567
And I should accept that and I
should learn from that and then

433
00:18:25,957 --> 00:18:27,487
build boundaries off of that.

434
00:18:27,757 --> 00:18:27,817
Yeah.

435
00:18:27,847 --> 00:18:31,207
Where it's all like, if that happens,
like you're not welcome back.

436
00:18:31,207 --> 00:18:31,837
I'm sorry.

437
00:18:32,137 --> 00:18:32,227
Yeah.

438
00:18:33,667 --> 00:18:35,887
I had, well.

439
00:18:37,702 --> 00:18:41,482
I have some friends that I've had for like
a really, really long time, but mm-hmm.

440
00:18:41,722 --> 00:18:46,612
Because we've been friends for so long, we
don't live anywhere close to each other.

441
00:18:47,572 --> 00:18:47,692
Mm-hmm.

442
00:18:47,932 --> 00:18:47,992
Yeah.

443
00:18:48,082 --> 00:18:52,222
Um, we still keep in touch and we
chat and stuff, but yeah, I mean,

444
00:18:52,222 --> 00:18:53,842
there's a couple of 'em where.

445
00:18:55,297 --> 00:18:58,087
Like one of 'em, she was my
friend for like 20 years and

446
00:18:58,087 --> 00:19:00,457
she was there when my mom died.

447
00:19:00,577 --> 00:19:03,517
My mom died not this last
August, but the August before.

448
00:19:03,517 --> 00:19:03,518
Yeah.

449
00:19:03,852 --> 00:19:04,272
Mm-hmm.

450
00:19:04,352 --> 00:19:08,257
Um, and that was kind of really
the last time that she was around.

451
00:19:08,407 --> 00:19:08,857
Really?

452
00:19:08,977 --> 00:19:09,097
Yeah.

453
00:19:09,097 --> 00:19:13,507
And I know like everybody goes through
their stuff and I know, oh yeah, she was

454
00:19:13,507 --> 00:19:19,447
going through stuff too, but like I kept
trying to reach out and trying to talk.

455
00:19:19,447 --> 00:19:19,537
Mm-hmm.

456
00:19:19,792 --> 00:19:24,442
And include and loop in on
what was going on with my life.

457
00:19:24,442 --> 00:19:26,122
And it wasn't being complicated.

458
00:19:26,842 --> 00:19:27,232
Yeah.

459
00:19:27,352 --> 00:19:29,962
Then eventually I just was
like, okay, I guess I'm gonna

460
00:19:29,962 --> 00:19:31,552
be done like two years in a row.

461
00:19:31,672 --> 00:19:33,322
You didn't say happy birthday.

462
00:19:33,322 --> 00:19:33,982
I, yeah.

463
00:19:34,792 --> 00:19:37,402
I'm not gonna keep putting
the energy into it.

464
00:19:37,432 --> 00:19:37,612
Yeah.

465
00:19:37,912 --> 00:19:39,442
It's if you don't want it.

466
00:19:39,922 --> 00:19:40,282
Yeah.

467
00:19:40,432 --> 00:19:42,082
Put that hundred percent anywhere else.

468
00:19:42,087 --> 00:19:42,267
Yeah.

469
00:19:43,342 --> 00:19:43,403
So, yeah.

470
00:19:43,407 --> 00:19:45,832
And that doesn't mean you
love the person any, yeah.

471
00:19:46,552 --> 00:19:47,332
Any less.

472
00:19:47,332 --> 00:19:49,012
It's sucks.

473
00:19:50,482 --> 00:19:51,352
I'm thankful.

474
00:19:51,382 --> 00:19:54,592
I think that's part of why I'm
really thankful for the pageant, um.

475
00:19:54,712 --> 00:19:54,922
Mm-hmm.

476
00:19:56,422 --> 00:19:58,552
Even though it's a lot of hard work.

477
00:19:59,392 --> 00:19:59,572
Yeah.

478
00:20:01,462 --> 00:20:06,202
And man, I'm so exhausted.

479
00:20:06,202 --> 00:20:12,802
Like we're, as of recording this, we're
like, like 10 days, just over a week.

480
00:20:12,802 --> 00:20:13,072
Yeah.

481
00:20:13,072 --> 00:20:13,582
10 days.

482
00:20:13,582 --> 00:20:15,472
Yeah, 10 days total stage.

483
00:20:15,472 --> 00:20:15,532
So.

484
00:20:20,362 --> 00:20:23,212
Trying to figure out hair and
makeup and walking pattern.

485
00:20:23,212 --> 00:20:23,272
Yeah.

486
00:20:23,662 --> 00:20:27,622
And posing sunsuit and what
dress you're gonna wear and

487
00:20:27,622 --> 00:20:29,332
just every, it's a lot of work.

488
00:20:29,332 --> 00:20:30,262
But like

489
00:20:32,272 --> 00:20:34,432
is this your first year
ever doing a pageant?

490
00:20:34,492 --> 00:20:35,062
No.

491
00:20:35,632 --> 00:20:36,832
No, it's not.

492
00:20:36,862 --> 00:20:40,492
So I actually, when I was in
high school, I'm a small town.

493
00:20:41,287 --> 00:20:45,037
And so there's, you know, the
local city pageant and there's

494
00:20:45,037 --> 00:20:46,297
the local county pageant.

495
00:20:46,297 --> 00:20:47,527
And I did both of those.

496
00:20:47,527 --> 00:20:52,777
I didn't place, which I'm glad I didn't
because I wasn't in the right mindset.

497
00:20:52,777 --> 00:20:56,137
I was doing it for the dresses
and the, you know, like I was fun.

498
00:20:56,137 --> 00:20:58,807
I was doing it for just for fun, right?

499
00:20:58,837 --> 00:20:59,167
Um.

500
00:20:59,897 --> 00:21:02,177
But I've always had
that love for pageants.

501
00:21:02,177 --> 00:21:05,657
I mean, I was that little girl who
asked for Miss Congeniality, the

502
00:21:05,657 --> 00:21:08,327
movie on VHS, like for Christmas.

503
00:21:08,327 --> 00:21:08,897
And I got it.

504
00:21:08,897 --> 00:21:11,387
Like I'm just, I love, I love all of that.

505
00:21:11,387 --> 00:21:19,097
And, and so actually it was after I
ended my engagement, I had joined, I had

506
00:21:19,247 --> 00:21:24,467
tried out and made Senate dance team,
which was Senate football, which was

507
00:21:24,467 --> 00:21:26,477
like here in Utah for like three years.

508
00:21:26,777 --> 00:21:27,617
Oh, cool.

509
00:21:28,192 --> 00:21:32,692
So I was part of that dance
team and my coach actually had

510
00:21:32,692 --> 00:21:35,572
just that same year won Mrs.

511
00:21:35,572 --> 00:21:36,562
Utah America.

512
00:21:37,042 --> 00:21:42,112
And so I had watched that pageant and I
was like, Ooh, I could totally do that.

513
00:21:42,382 --> 00:21:45,472
Like this is something that I
could, like, would want to do.

514
00:21:45,832 --> 00:21:50,932
Um, and so I was kind of preparing
for it back then, uh, in 2022,

515
00:21:51,682 --> 00:21:53,422
um, to do it the next year.

516
00:21:54,167 --> 00:21:56,057
And I ended up moving to North Carolina.

517
00:21:56,327 --> 00:21:59,867
It was a long, like a lifelong
dream for me to move out there.

518
00:21:59,867 --> 00:22:00,767
And so I did.

519
00:22:01,067 --> 00:22:05,447
And so I ended up competing out there for
Miss North Carolina, for America Strong.

520
00:22:05,897 --> 00:22:07,997
I ended up placing second attendant.

521
00:22:08,327 --> 00:22:11,612
Um, and then life happened
and I moved back to Utah.

522
00:22:11,712 --> 00:22:12,492
And so I was like.

523
00:22:13,687 --> 00:22:16,567
I kind of wanna do another
pageant and I had aged back into

524
00:22:16,567 --> 00:22:18,397
the Miss America organization.

525
00:22:18,402 --> 00:22:18,682
Mm-hmm.

526
00:22:18,762 --> 00:22:20,887
You know, the organization
that everyone thinks of.

527
00:22:20,887 --> 00:22:23,827
When you say pageant, you're
like, oh, that's the organization.

528
00:22:24,097 --> 00:22:24,577
The one, yeah.

529
00:22:24,877 --> 00:22:25,417
Um, yeah.

530
00:22:25,417 --> 00:22:26,707
And so I did it.

531
00:22:26,707 --> 00:22:31,297
I'm all like, Hey, I aged back in
technically 'cause they adjusted the ages.

532
00:22:31,987 --> 00:22:32,947
I'll, I'll do it.

533
00:22:33,037 --> 00:22:33,817
And I did.

534
00:22:34,447 --> 00:22:37,867
And then that was kind of when
I discovered my health issues

535
00:22:37,867 --> 00:22:39,787
and all the things and Yeah.

536
00:22:39,787 --> 00:22:44,067
And so I. Was like, eh, I'm
not gonna do a pageant again.

537
00:22:44,217 --> 00:22:50,277
And then I just focused on myself and
my studio and just working on life.

538
00:22:50,637 --> 00:22:55,407
And then I actually choreographed
for that same pageant that I did

539
00:22:55,497 --> 00:22:56,997
in the Miss America Organization.

540
00:22:56,997 --> 00:22:59,157
And I was all like, 'cause I
did their opening number and

541
00:22:59,157 --> 00:23:01,497
everything, and as I was there.

542
00:23:02,677 --> 00:23:03,817
Um, Kaylyn.

543
00:23:03,817 --> 00:23:07,297
Lippert was helping Backstage
'cause I've known her for a bit.

544
00:23:07,297 --> 00:23:11,827
We've kind of, yeah, she's amazing and
she's all like, you should just do it.

545
00:23:12,217 --> 00:23:13,567
She's like, you should just do it.

546
00:23:13,657 --> 00:23:16,147
And so I'm all like, okay, maybe I will.

547
00:23:16,357 --> 00:23:18,727
And then a few weeks later I
was like, okay, I'll do it.

548
00:23:18,727 --> 00:23:22,447
And I called Dai and Alicia and
I was like, Hey, these are the

549
00:23:22,447 --> 00:23:25,897
concerns I have from the pageants
in the past that I've done.

550
00:23:26,647 --> 00:23:27,547
What do you think?

551
00:23:27,547 --> 00:23:28,927
And they're like, we're not that way.

552
00:23:28,927 --> 00:23:29,677
And they aren't.

553
00:23:29,677 --> 00:23:30,232
They're amazing.

554
00:23:30,232 --> 00:23:33,817
I love like the Utah
Presents program like.

555
00:23:34,522 --> 00:23:38,032
They're truly great directors and
they put on an amazing pageant.

556
00:23:38,032 --> 00:23:39,532
So I'm so excited.

557
00:23:39,592 --> 00:23:43,702
So no, it's not my first pageant,
but I, I am kind of treating

558
00:23:43,702 --> 00:23:46,852
it like it's the pageant.

559
00:23:47,002 --> 00:23:53,632
Like this is the one like to top all
the others, you know, like to kind of

560
00:23:53,632 --> 00:23:55,822
heal my pageant experience, I guess.

561
00:23:55,942 --> 00:24:00,382
Yeah, I think it kind of
has like healed my, um.

562
00:24:01,792 --> 00:24:06,502
My sisterhood, friendship,
community, whatever.

563
00:24:06,532 --> 00:24:10,762
There's a lot of times where like
I've needed people to show up for me

564
00:24:10,762 --> 00:24:12,142
and people wouldn't show up for me.

565
00:24:12,142 --> 00:24:12,232
Mm-hmm.

566
00:24:12,232 --> 00:24:16,702
But like with this, I have
people always showing up for me.

567
00:24:16,702 --> 00:24:17,002
Yeah.

568
00:24:17,602 --> 00:24:19,072
People cheering me on and we're not Yeah.

569
00:24:19,162 --> 00:24:20,242
Cheering each other down.

570
00:24:20,242 --> 00:24:21,562
We're like, no.

571
00:24:22,177 --> 00:24:23,887
Always helping each other.

572
00:24:23,947 --> 00:24:28,387
And right now I can see, like over
on my screen, I can see some text

573
00:24:28,387 --> 00:24:29,977
messages popping up about Yeah.

574
00:24:30,097 --> 00:24:31,537
Brain tans and stuff for next week.

575
00:24:31,537 --> 00:24:32,917
Like yeah, yeah.

576
00:24:33,307 --> 00:24:34,387
We're helping each other.

577
00:24:34,387 --> 00:24:39,457
Like it's not, it's not one,
one for themselves, you know?

578
00:24:39,817 --> 00:24:40,057
Yeah.

579
00:24:40,057 --> 00:24:45,727
Well, and even the outgoing queens and
the formers, like, they're so helpful.

580
00:24:45,727 --> 00:24:49,477
Like my, I was borrowing
my interview address from.

581
00:24:50,017 --> 00:24:51,637
My coach, Jessica Wayland.

582
00:24:51,637 --> 00:24:57,517
So she was Mrs. And I was, I was,
um, borrowing it from her Uhhuh,

583
00:24:57,757 --> 00:25:01,387
and I noticed there was like a
snag or a stain or something, and I

584
00:25:01,387 --> 00:25:04,777
was like, oh, no, like this is my,
like, this is what I was gonna do.

585
00:25:04,897 --> 00:25:04,927
Oh.

586
00:25:05,257 --> 00:25:11,762
And so, but then, um, Chelsea,
our current queen mm-hmm.

587
00:25:11,862 --> 00:25:13,002
She had the exact same.

588
00:25:13,717 --> 00:25:14,257
Outfit, right.

589
00:25:14,317 --> 00:25:15,367
And so I reached out to her.

590
00:25:15,367 --> 00:25:17,137
I'm all like, can I borrow it?

591
00:25:17,377 --> 00:25:20,917
Like this was the outfit that I
was really wanting for interview.

592
00:25:21,217 --> 00:25:22,477
Um, and she's like, yeah.

593
00:25:22,897 --> 00:25:24,037
And I, I just love it.

594
00:25:24,037 --> 00:25:28,687
Like we see those messages on our GroupMe
and like texts all the time that are like.

595
00:25:29,122 --> 00:25:33,382
Who needs this, or I have this,
or this person has, you know,

596
00:25:33,382 --> 00:25:35,152
this contact or different things.

597
00:25:35,152 --> 00:25:36,172
And I, I love it.

598
00:25:36,262 --> 00:25:37,522
It's truly a sisterhood.

599
00:25:37,522 --> 00:25:41,092
And it doesn't end when
the pageant is over.

600
00:25:41,332 --> 00:25:41,392
Yeah.

601
00:25:41,392 --> 00:25:45,862
Like it will continue and we will
be friends for a very long time.

602
00:25:45,862 --> 00:25:50,332
And even the women that I connected
with in North Carolina, like

603
00:25:50,332 --> 00:25:51,712
we're still really good friends.

604
00:25:51,712 --> 00:25:55,402
We like send memes to each other
all the time over Instagram

605
00:25:55,612 --> 00:25:57,292
where it's all like, it's just.

606
00:25:58,087 --> 00:26:00,637
It's just a very healing network.

607
00:26:00,967 --> 00:26:01,657
Yeah, for sure.

608
00:26:02,197 --> 00:26:07,687
Well, and they're all people
who are like, it's, it's all

609
00:26:08,587 --> 00:26:10,777
about community and service.

610
00:26:10,777 --> 00:26:10,778
Mm-hmm.

611
00:26:10,847 --> 00:26:11,857
And yeah.

612
00:26:12,427 --> 00:26:15,427
I mean, yeah, pretty dresses and
stuff is nice, but what we're

613
00:26:15,427 --> 00:26:20,017
really doing is we're looking to
make a change and make an impact.

614
00:26:20,407 --> 00:26:20,467
Yeah.

615
00:26:20,467 --> 00:26:20,737
And like.

616
00:26:22,447 --> 00:26:25,747
When you're in your interview, it's
like your job interview for the state.

617
00:26:25,747 --> 00:26:29,887
Like you're, you're going to go to
represent your state to go on Yeah.

618
00:26:29,887 --> 00:26:31,342
National pageant if you win.

619
00:26:31,342 --> 00:26:31,742
Mm-hmm.

620
00:26:31,822 --> 00:26:32,767
And you have to like, yeah.

621
00:26:33,847 --> 00:26:35,347
Anyway, it's just, yeah.

622
00:26:35,737 --> 00:26:40,237
Um, I did not think about that the
first time that I did it because the

623
00:26:40,237 --> 00:26:42,277
lady that told me about it was like.

624
00:26:43,867 --> 00:26:46,027
She told me I should do it, and
I was like, I would need a lot of

625
00:26:46,027 --> 00:26:47,347
work to be in a beauty pageant.

626
00:26:47,347 --> 00:26:50,017
And she said, no, you wouldn't
and send me the application.

627
00:26:50,017 --> 00:26:55,597
And I kind of looked at it and she kind
of made it sound like it wasn't a big

628
00:26:55,597 --> 00:27:00,487
deal, but it's like, it kind of is like
a, it's kind of a big deal, but it's like

629
00:27:00,487 --> 00:27:06,667
the, the charity focus and the giving
back part is like where my heart is.

630
00:27:07,087 --> 00:27:07,447
Yeah.

631
00:27:07,867 --> 00:27:13,357
I loved your project that you did
where you like gathered, so thank you.

632
00:27:13,447 --> 00:27:15,847
La fires happened Yeah.

633
00:27:15,907 --> 00:27:17,017
Quite a while ago.

634
00:27:17,017 --> 00:27:18,122
I mean, there's mm-hmm.

635
00:27:18,342 --> 00:27:20,647
But there's still the
aftermath of it and Yeah.

636
00:27:21,127 --> 00:27:21,727
Oh yeah.

637
00:27:21,817 --> 00:27:23,917
All over the state.

638
00:27:24,097 --> 00:27:24,157
Yeah.

639
00:27:24,307 --> 00:27:30,202
To collect different dance studio items
to help some places get set back up.

640
00:27:30,307 --> 00:27:32,977
'cause we don't, we don't
think about those things going

641
00:27:33,607 --> 00:27:34,927
away when there's a fire.

642
00:27:34,927 --> 00:27:36,007
You don't think about like, yeah.

643
00:27:36,457 --> 00:27:40,537
Grocery stores and like the lack
of replenishing the supplies.

644
00:27:40,537 --> 00:27:40,597
Yeah.

645
00:27:40,957 --> 00:27:42,577
Tell me about that experience.

646
00:27:42,577 --> 00:27:45,967
'cause I've been waiting to
ask until had you on here.

647
00:27:46,627 --> 00:27:47,107
Yeah.

648
00:27:47,107 --> 00:27:50,887
So I actually did it not as
a connection to the pageant.

649
00:27:50,947 --> 00:27:52,117
I did it more.

650
00:27:52,147 --> 00:27:52,507
Yeah.

651
00:27:52,507 --> 00:27:53,647
So I did it more as like.

652
00:27:55,012 --> 00:27:59,032
Just, it's something that I wanted to
do as a studio owner and as a teacher.

653
00:27:59,092 --> 00:28:04,612
Like it was just as soon as I heard of
that, and then on like Facebook groups,

654
00:28:04,612 --> 00:28:08,062
they were saying, oh, this studio
needs this, this studio needs this.

655
00:28:08,062 --> 00:28:13,162
Or these artists, um, and these,
you know, actors and everything.

656
00:28:13,567 --> 00:28:16,177
Everyone, they were kind of
affected and we forget, you know,

657
00:28:16,177 --> 00:28:17,617
we forget that they're real people.

658
00:28:17,767 --> 00:28:18,337
You know?

659
00:28:18,337 --> 00:28:21,517
Like I had one person who was like,
are they even gonna appreciate it?

660
00:28:21,517 --> 00:28:23,197
I'm like, they're human.

661
00:28:23,317 --> 00:28:24,757
They're going to appreciate it.

662
00:28:24,757 --> 00:28:27,577
And even if they don't like,
that's on them, you know?

663
00:28:27,877 --> 00:28:35,257
And so as a studio owner, I really thought
like, wow, like if I lost my studio or if

664
00:28:35,257 --> 00:28:40,207
my students, like I have students who go
through things, but I was just thinking.

665
00:28:40,927 --> 00:28:41,347
Wow.

666
00:28:41,347 --> 00:28:42,157
Something.

667
00:28:42,307 --> 00:28:45,457
I, I wanna do something
because I can't just sit.

668
00:28:45,817 --> 00:28:49,627
Um, and I feel like it
was so close to home.

669
00:28:50,287 --> 00:28:53,947
Um, and, and especially
in Utah, like I grew up.

670
00:28:54,937 --> 00:28:58,897
With fires all around, like I remember
one year we went to the waterpark

671
00:28:58,897 --> 00:29:01,717
and ash was falling from the sky,
you know, where it's all like it,

672
00:29:01,987 --> 00:29:04,057
it was so close to my feelings.

673
00:29:04,057 --> 00:29:04,117
Yeah.

674
00:29:04,117 --> 00:29:05,797
Where I was like, I wanna do something.

675
00:29:06,217 --> 00:29:09,157
And so it just started out as
like, Hey, I'm gonna do this.

676
00:29:09,157 --> 00:29:10,927
Anyone wanna donate anything?

677
00:29:11,587 --> 00:29:15,877
Um, and then I had studio owners
continue to reach out to me and

678
00:29:15,877 --> 00:29:20,107
more and more, and I was like, oh,
like this is gonna be a big deal.

679
00:29:21,997 --> 00:29:25,567
It wasn't truly until I was picking
up the donations that I was like,

680
00:29:25,777 --> 00:29:28,327
oh, like I'm gonna need more help.

681
00:29:28,327 --> 00:29:33,067
Like, my studio is so small,
but it was filled, like it,

682
00:29:33,337 --> 00:29:35,557
there was just, it was amazing.

683
00:29:36,847 --> 00:29:36,907
Wow.

684
00:29:36,937 --> 00:29:41,737
And so I ended up getting
help from my congregation.

685
00:29:41,767 --> 00:29:44,917
Um, a gentleman in my
congregation came with us.

686
00:29:45,277 --> 00:29:45,847
Um.

687
00:29:46,522 --> 00:29:48,322
He just volunteered his truck.

688
00:29:48,322 --> 00:29:51,892
So we took, uh, we rented a
van because we knew my van

689
00:29:51,952 --> 00:29:53,272
wouldn't make it to California.

690
00:29:53,272 --> 00:29:53,842
It's so old.

691
00:29:54,622 --> 00:29:59,182
And so we ended up renting a van
and we filled up the van entirely.

692
00:29:59,182 --> 00:30:04,672
Like all the only seats that were left
were like the driver passenger in my

693
00:30:04,672 --> 00:30:07,672
seat, and it was like overflowing.

694
00:30:07,762 --> 00:30:13,162
And then his truck was completely
filled and it was just, it was such

695
00:30:13,222 --> 00:30:15,472
an emotional experience delivering it.

696
00:30:15,847 --> 00:30:21,367
Like, I like my, a little bit of
my heart was left with that studio.

697
00:30:21,457 --> 00:30:26,527
Um, and they're still seeking
donations because they were truly

698
00:30:26,527 --> 00:30:28,567
displaced, like from their studio.

699
00:30:28,747 --> 00:30:31,537
They can't, even though their
studio was still there, it

700
00:30:31,537 --> 00:30:33,367
was still, you know, intact.

701
00:30:33,997 --> 00:30:34,417
It.

702
00:30:34,927 --> 00:30:37,477
They can't go back,
like they can't afford.

703
00:30:37,837 --> 00:30:39,937
To lease that area.

704
00:30:40,207 --> 00:30:45,157
They can't, you know, like they're helping
these students just be able to dance.

705
00:30:45,547 --> 00:30:51,127
And so there's, I mean, it's March, it's
been three months, but they're still

706
00:30:51,127 --> 00:30:57,277
healing from it physically, emotionally,
mentally, and so it was, it's still like.

707
00:30:57,667 --> 00:31:02,437
I'm still in awe of what I was able to
do and what I was able to be a part of.

708
00:31:02,797 --> 00:31:07,567
Um, and it wasn't just me like it
really was the dance studios throughout

709
00:31:07,567 --> 00:31:11,587
Utah because my little dance studio
wouldn't have collected that much.

710
00:31:11,587 --> 00:31:13,357
Like yeah, we just really wouldn't.

711
00:31:13,357 --> 00:31:19,657
I have 25 students where it's just
like these studios and our dance

712
00:31:19,657 --> 00:31:25,267
community here in Utah really came
together and it was so beautiful.

713
00:31:25,642 --> 00:31:26,722
That's so cool.

714
00:31:26,992 --> 00:31:30,412
And like the ripple effect,
just one person saying, Hey.

715
00:31:30,502 --> 00:31:30,742
Mm-hmm.

716
00:31:31,252 --> 00:31:32,542
I wanna do something.

717
00:31:32,812 --> 00:31:33,202
Yeah.

718
00:31:34,312 --> 00:31:37,522
You had so many, many hands and donations.

719
00:31:37,552 --> 00:31:37,642
Mm-hmm.

720
00:31:37,882 --> 00:31:39,772
And I'm sure, yeah, the adventure.

721
00:31:39,772 --> 00:31:43,582
Well, and not only, not only did that
one studio, like we delivered it to

722
00:31:43,582 --> 00:31:48,532
them, but even there were so many
donations that they ended up sharing

723
00:31:48,532 --> 00:31:50,212
with other studios who needed it.

724
00:31:50,272 --> 00:31:53,422
And so it's just like, you
never know what your one.

725
00:31:54,112 --> 00:31:54,652
Action.

726
00:31:54,802 --> 00:31:55,312
We'll do.

727
00:31:55,582 --> 00:31:56,062
Yeah.

728
00:31:56,512 --> 00:31:59,872
Well and things like this, they
can bring out the worst in people,

729
00:31:59,872 --> 00:32:03,652
but I think we need to remember can
bring out the good in people too.

730
00:32:03,757 --> 00:32:04,047
Yeah.

731
00:32:04,612 --> 00:32:04,912
Yeah.

732
00:32:05,092 --> 00:32:06,742
And really connect people.

733
00:32:06,832 --> 00:32:08,452
Yes, yes, yes.

734
00:32:08,512 --> 00:32:10,852
Oh my gosh, I love that so much.

735
00:32:11,392 --> 00:32:11,752
Oh yeah.

736
00:32:11,752 --> 00:32:12,592
I know.

737
00:32:12,652 --> 00:32:14,452
I wanna go back and visit them so bad.

738
00:32:14,872 --> 00:32:19,222
Well, you should tell me, I was
just gonna say, send me a message.

739
00:32:19,222 --> 00:32:22,522
I'll put it in our show
notes and we can maybe.

740
00:32:23,362 --> 00:32:23,662
Yes.

741
00:32:23,662 --> 00:32:24,862
Spread the word a little bit.

742
00:32:24,922 --> 00:32:25,882
'cause Yeah.

743
00:32:26,032 --> 00:32:27,412
Love, we love helping.

744
00:32:27,622 --> 00:32:30,682
I think I started my own little nonprofit.

745
00:32:30,742 --> 00:32:32,482
I, it hasn't really gone anywhere yet.

746
00:32:32,512 --> 00:32:38,422
'cause I mean, I would've done it
if I, if I didn't have the pageant,

747
00:32:38,422 --> 00:32:39,592
I would probably end up mm-hmm.

748
00:32:40,102 --> 00:32:42,442
Doing all the stuff
that I'm already doing.

749
00:32:43,012 --> 00:32:43,192
Yeah.

750
00:32:43,192 --> 00:32:48,382
Um, the pageant just helped me
navigate things and figure out how I

751
00:32:48,562 --> 00:32:50,092
hundred percent, and that I'm capable.

752
00:32:50,812 --> 00:32:50,902
Yep.

753
00:32:51,502 --> 00:32:55,942
Um, so I started a nonprofit and I'm
working with all these other nonprofits

754
00:32:55,942 --> 00:33:02,302
just to help bring awareness and
yeah, educate and help help people.

755
00:33:02,482 --> 00:33:07,162
So yeah, send me their link and
we'll put it in our show notes.

756
00:33:07,762 --> 00:33:08,242
I will.

757
00:33:08,242 --> 00:33:08,244
I will.

758
00:33:08,302 --> 00:33:08,842
Yes.

759
00:33:09,142 --> 00:33:09,622
Okay.

760
00:33:10,042 --> 00:33:13,972
Tell us where we can find you
if you want more followers

761
00:33:13,972 --> 00:33:15,502
on any of your social media.

762
00:33:17,332 --> 00:33:17,572
I love that.

763
00:33:19,132 --> 00:33:25,852
Um, so I do have an Instagram,
uh, I, I think it's Jamie Nicole

764
00:33:25,852 --> 00:33:28,357
b. Oh yeah, I think it is.

765
00:33:28,447 --> 00:33:28,987
Yeah.

766
00:33:28,992 --> 00:33:29,252
Mm-hmm.

767
00:33:29,467 --> 00:33:34,177
And then my studio is North
Point Academy of of Dance.

768
00:33:34,177 --> 00:33:36,877
And that's just, just, that's just there.

769
00:33:36,937 --> 00:33:41,077
And, um, I mean, following your dance
studio, I'm gonna do that, right?

770
00:33:41,082 --> 00:33:41,252
Yeah.

771
00:33:41,677 --> 00:33:42,097
Yeah.

772
00:33:42,157 --> 00:33:46,452
And I, and I think an important
thing to recognize is like.

773
00:33:47,992 --> 00:33:50,392
I don't want a ton of following.

774
00:33:50,452 --> 00:33:52,252
I was thinking about that the other day.

775
00:33:52,252 --> 00:33:54,712
I was, I was putting a
lot of pressure on myself.

776
00:33:54,712 --> 00:33:56,842
I'm like, oh, I'm not doing
this on Instagram, and I'm

777
00:33:56,842 --> 00:33:58,102
not doing that on Instagram.

778
00:33:58,102 --> 00:34:00,232
I'm like, Ooh, I need people to follow me.

779
00:34:00,232 --> 00:34:03,682
And I think it just got
kind of overwhelming.

780
00:34:03,922 --> 00:34:07,102
And I think it's important, at
least for me, where I'm all like,

781
00:34:07,102 --> 00:34:09,472
no, I created that Instagram.

782
00:34:09,472 --> 00:34:11,212
Like I got back on Instagram.

783
00:34:12,187 --> 00:34:18,727
In 2022, so I deleted it in 2020
'cause the arts were like crazy in

784
00:34:18,727 --> 00:34:22,327
2020 with like Covid and all the
politics where I was just like,

785
00:34:22,602 --> 00:34:24,532
yeah, can't you deleted Instagram?

786
00:34:24,817 --> 00:34:25,147
Yeah.

787
00:34:25,567 --> 00:34:30,397
Um, but I ended up getting
Instagram again because it truly

788
00:34:30,397 --> 00:34:31,957
is a way to market yourself.

789
00:34:32,347 --> 00:34:35,977
Um, but my personal Instagram,
I kind of made it as a way of.

790
00:34:36,832 --> 00:34:38,512
Just expressing myself.

791
00:34:38,842 --> 00:34:39,202
Yeah.

792
00:34:39,202 --> 00:34:42,292
And I have to continue to remind
myself that that's the purpose

793
00:34:42,292 --> 00:34:44,542
bet behind my personal Instagram.

794
00:34:44,842 --> 00:34:44,962
Yeah.

795
00:34:44,962 --> 00:34:49,912
Is that it was for me and that
it wasn't for any, well, like

796
00:34:50,092 --> 00:34:51,202
people are gonna see it, right?

797
00:34:51,367 --> 00:34:51,607
Yeah.

798
00:34:51,747 --> 00:34:56,452
But it wasn't for like the likes and all
this subscription, like all that stuff.

799
00:34:56,452 --> 00:35:02,782
And so, um, it's just been, Instagram
has been a healing experience too, like.

800
00:35:03,922 --> 00:35:06,442
I mean, like I said before,
just living intentionally.

801
00:35:06,442 --> 00:35:12,142
And I think when I have an intention
behind my social media, it has helped

802
00:35:12,142 --> 00:35:14,872
me have a, yeah, better outlook on it.

803
00:35:14,962 --> 00:35:17,092
And so I'm not feeling so overwhelmed.

804
00:35:17,332 --> 00:35:20,902
And I think having that purpose
behind it really relieves a

805
00:35:20,902 --> 00:35:23,632
lot of anxiety and stress.

806
00:35:23,632 --> 00:35:27,652
And so, um, I've had to remind myself
of that when I do feel overwhelmed,

807
00:35:27,652 --> 00:35:31,552
I kind of step away from my personal
Instagram, obviously, I. Have to

808
00:35:31,552 --> 00:35:33,022
continue to do my business one.

809
00:35:34,012 --> 00:35:34,072
Yeah.

810
00:35:34,167 --> 00:35:40,822
But, um, but yeah, I think social
media can be wonderful in so many ways.

811
00:35:40,827 --> 00:35:40,867
Yeah.

812
00:35:40,872 --> 00:35:43,582
And I think it can be harmful
in so many ways and we just have

813
00:35:43,582 --> 00:35:45,052
to recognize that difference.

814
00:35:45,352 --> 00:35:45,832
Yeah.

815
00:35:46,192 --> 00:35:50,302
Well, and I wanna like control
the narrative here, like, yeah.

816
00:35:51,037 --> 00:35:54,517
We're not, I hate getting all
these messages that are like, do

817
00:35:54,517 --> 00:35:56,377
you wanna have 50,000 followers?

818
00:35:56,377 --> 00:35:56,527
No.

819
00:35:56,527 --> 00:35:58,387
Yeah, I don't want any of that.

820
00:35:58,567 --> 00:35:59,947
But yeah, I'm like, I don't need it.

821
00:36:00,187 --> 00:36:01,687
We all go through stuff.

822
00:36:01,927 --> 00:36:02,017
Mm-hmm.

823
00:36:02,017 --> 00:36:06,367
But we are all really, really
cool and really capable.

824
00:36:06,367 --> 00:36:06,607
Yes.

825
00:36:07,177 --> 00:36:08,497
And doing amazing things.

826
00:36:08,502 --> 00:36:08,612
Yeah.

827
00:36:08,612 --> 00:36:09,012
Though.

828
00:36:09,697 --> 00:36:10,027
Yeah.

829
00:36:10,122 --> 00:36:11,977
Well, and I have to
remind myself of that too.

830
00:36:11,977 --> 00:36:12,937
I'm like, it's okay.

831
00:36:13,462 --> 00:36:16,612
For me to show these things as
well, especially with the pageant.

832
00:36:16,612 --> 00:36:17,692
I'm like, okay.

833
00:36:17,752 --> 00:36:21,352
My purpose of my personal Instagram
was just kind of for me, and I have

834
00:36:21,352 --> 00:36:25,552
to remind myself it's okay to showcase
what I'm doing in the pageant.

835
00:36:25,552 --> 00:36:31,042
It's okay to showcase what I'm doing in
my life because I can still be humble, but

836
00:36:31,042 --> 00:36:32,962
I can still be proud of what I'm doing.

837
00:36:33,202 --> 00:36:33,442
Yeah.

838
00:36:33,442 --> 00:36:37,372
And be and celebrate who I am
and what I've accomplished.

839
00:36:37,612 --> 00:36:38,062
Yeah.

840
00:36:38,362 --> 00:36:39,562
Well, and I don't think.

841
00:36:42,607 --> 00:36:46,537
People get, so I'm not, I'm gonna
erase not the, I don't think part,

842
00:36:46,537 --> 00:36:49,687
but people get so entitled to
think that like everything that

843
00:36:49,687 --> 00:36:51,307
they're viewing and taking in Yeah.

844
00:36:51,517 --> 00:36:53,467
Be catered for them.

845
00:36:53,467 --> 00:36:54,782
And if they don't like it Yeah.

846
00:36:54,937 --> 00:36:57,907
And they get all vocal about it
and they're grumpy, it's okay.

847
00:36:57,907 --> 00:36:59,107
It's not for them.

848
00:36:59,737 --> 00:36:59,857
Yeah.

849
00:36:59,857 --> 00:37:01,567
They could just move on.

850
00:37:01,987 --> 00:37:02,287
Yeah.

851
00:37:03,067 --> 00:37:03,577
Yes.

852
00:37:03,607 --> 00:37:04,897
Why are they so angry?

853
00:37:04,897 --> 00:37:06,912
That isn't a you thing,
that's a them thing.

854
00:37:07,342 --> 00:37:07,633
Like, yeah.

855
00:37:09,202 --> 00:37:09,472
Yeah.

856
00:37:09,862 --> 00:37:12,202
And I feel whatever you're
doing isn't for anybody else.

857
00:37:12,202 --> 00:37:13,372
It should be for you.

858
00:37:13,462 --> 00:37:13,822
Yeah.

859
00:37:14,062 --> 00:37:15,772
Well, and I feel that way
about a lot of things.

860
00:37:15,772 --> 00:37:21,892
Like there's, so, like I was, I follow
this one, I should say like influencer

861
00:37:21,892 --> 00:37:27,142
or whatever, and she's a member of my
church and she kind of posts, um, like

862
00:37:27,802 --> 00:37:33,142
kind of not backlash, I wouldn't say
the word backlash, but like, she's a

863
00:37:33,142 --> 00:37:37,192
spitfire, so she'll be like, oh, you
don't like me because of my beliefs.

864
00:37:37,192 --> 00:37:37,792
Well, then.

865
00:37:38,392 --> 00:37:40,282
Don't worry about it, just like, move on.

866
00:37:40,282 --> 00:37:41,632
And I'm all like, I love that.

867
00:37:41,632 --> 00:37:44,002
Where it's all like, we can
still be cordial, we can

868
00:37:44,002 --> 00:37:46,157
still love everyone mm-hmm.

869
00:37:46,187 --> 00:37:47,182
Without mm-hmm.

870
00:37:47,242 --> 00:37:48,832
Tearing each other down.

871
00:37:48,832 --> 00:37:48,892
Yeah.

872
00:37:49,252 --> 00:37:53,272
Like, it doesn't matter what you believe
your political be beliefs, your religious

873
00:37:53,272 --> 00:37:55,762
beliefs, what you do for work, whatever.

874
00:37:55,762 --> 00:37:59,122
Like, you can still love and you
can, like we talked about before,

875
00:37:59,182 --> 00:38:00,832
we have so much love in our hearts.

876
00:38:00,837 --> 00:38:00,997
Mm-hmm.

877
00:38:02,152 --> 00:38:02,215
Why not give it.

878
00:38:02,617 --> 00:38:07,027
Like, it's just going to add
more blood to your life if you're

879
00:38:07,027 --> 00:38:08,407
focusing on all the negative.

880
00:38:08,737 --> 00:38:09,067
Yeah.

881
00:38:09,157 --> 00:38:11,167
That's not where you should
be putting your energy.

882
00:38:11,172 --> 00:38:11,372
Yeah.

883
00:38:11,917 --> 00:38:12,187
Yeah.

884
00:38:12,312 --> 00:38:17,407
It, it deserves and your peace
deserves so much more than that.

885
00:38:17,407 --> 00:38:23,767
Like I had some people that were trying to
get all nasty and rude, but it was because

886
00:38:23,767 --> 00:38:25,867
of stuff with them and it had a Yeah.

887
00:38:25,927 --> 00:38:27,727
Absolutely nothing to do with me.

888
00:38:27,727 --> 00:38:27,787
Yeah.

889
00:38:28,612 --> 00:38:33,742
I think, you know, a lot of us
have that mindset of like, I

890
00:38:33,742 --> 00:38:34,942
have to make everybody happy.

891
00:38:34,972 --> 00:38:38,482
We're people pleasers, and when we're
not making people happy, we're like,

892
00:38:38,542 --> 00:38:40,462
Ooh, that makes me uncomfortable.

893
00:38:40,462 --> 00:38:41,452
But it doesn't matter.

894
00:38:41,512 --> 00:38:44,692
Like, yeah, we need to be happy too.

895
00:38:45,202 --> 00:38:46,012
Yeah, yeah.

896
00:38:46,282 --> 00:38:47,902
Well, and our energy is so important.

897
00:38:48,112 --> 00:38:53,572
Like, it's like we have only so
much energy to give each day,

898
00:38:54,112 --> 00:38:56,752
and we need to apply that energy.

899
00:38:58,327 --> 00:39:04,837
To the important parts and the positive
and just moving forward instead of

900
00:39:04,837 --> 00:39:07,897
holding on to um, what people think.

901
00:39:08,317 --> 00:39:10,237
Yes, exactly.

902
00:39:10,357 --> 00:39:11,737
It matters what we think.

903
00:39:11,917 --> 00:39:12,577
I love that.

904
00:39:13,387 --> 00:39:13,837
Kay.

905
00:39:14,527 --> 00:39:17,167
I think this is actually a
beautiful time to wrap up.

906
00:39:17,167 --> 00:39:18,097
What do you think?

907
00:39:18,652 --> 00:39:18,952
Yeah.

908
00:39:19,282 --> 00:39:20,242
Yeah, that's fine.

909
00:39:20,452 --> 00:39:21,532
Let's just do it.

910
00:39:21,592 --> 00:39:23,572
'cause we got a lot of work to do.

911
00:39:25,762 --> 00:39:29,512
Got some bed We do and, and other things.

912
00:39:29,512 --> 00:39:33,502
But I am so excited to see
you in just over a week.

913
00:39:34,402 --> 00:39:35,152
I know.

914
00:39:35,242 --> 00:39:36,052
It's crazy.

915
00:39:36,322 --> 00:39:37,222
We're gonna have the best time.

916
00:39:37,222 --> 00:39:41,077
Actually, this is gonna be coming out
like right around pageant time, so Yeah.

917
00:39:42,142 --> 00:39:42,202
Yeah.

918
00:39:42,412 --> 00:39:44,717
Let's, I'm so excited.

919
00:39:47,602 --> 00:39:49,432
Uh, take care of yourselves.

920
00:39:49,522 --> 00:39:50,507
I you too.

921
00:39:51,712 --> 00:39:52,552
Kind of crazy out there.

922
00:39:53,782 --> 00:39:54,022
Yeah.